+1 to a 4-pole, 5-way such as the Oak Grigsby superswitch.
Let’s first omit the push/pull as an option:
Achieving this with a standard Ibanez/Cor-Tek VLX912A20 Jem/RG switch that grounds the humbucker series connection in positions 2 and 4 would require that 5 and/or 1 draw signal from two contacts each, with one of the pair being the contacts that 2 and 4 send to ground. In a 2-pickup guitar, the 2502N switch typically gives you this option in position 2 or 4. Unfortunately, that switch’s capability to incorporate a third pickup is very limited.
Because of this unusual switching requirement, you require either a 4-pole, 5-way or custom-built switch.
Now: With a push/pull, you can use a VLX912A20 switch and achieve what you’re describing, but you will need to toggle the push/pull according to whether you want a. Parallel humbucker in position 1 or b. Split neck/middle in position 2. This is because the push/pull is toggling between whether or not switch position 1 draws its signal from the humbucker series connection. Selecting split neck/middle while the push/pull has the humbucker coils in parallel will end up only giving you the middle pickup by itself, due to grounding the signal from both of the parallel-joined coil-starts, rather than one when they are separate leads in normal operation.